Avoidance

 

Written by Christine Shirley

 

 

 

 

 

 

We all carry emotional baggage to varying degrees and, for some of us that emotional baggage can impact significantly on our emotional wellbeing.    Quite often we struggle on with life believing we can fix ourselves.    But, after years of trying, and getting nowhere, we still don’t ask for help.  Why is this?  Why would anyone prefer to suffer emotional pain on a daily basis rather than ask for assistance?

 

Avoidance is the answer!     Avoidance is not always a choice; it can also be a subconscious coping mechanism that many individuals have adapted to help them cope with anxiety, stress and/or trauma.

 

Following traumatic episode/s our subconscious becomes programmed to protect us from further pain.    Avoidance enables us to stay within our comfort zone, and ignore those feelings that are too painful for us.   Avoidance is just one of many coping mechanisms the subconscious mind uses to protect us from emotional pain but if we continue to use avoidance rather than facing the emotion, then the avoidance itself will exacerbate our emotional problem.  For example,

 

Robyn lost her job.   She was quite upset and did not feel up to attending interviews, so she told herself she would start looking for a new job next week when she was feeling better.    The following week came, and Robyn’s anxiety around job hunting had increased so she gave herself permission to avoid job hunting for another week, and then another and then…………..   After a couple of months Robyn had not found another job, and did not have any money to pay her bills.  She knew she should talk to her Bank Manager, but the thought made her anxious so she avoided doing so.   Last week Robyn started receiving telephone calls regarding outstanding bills.   Robyn stopped answering the phone…………….

 

Robyn could have taken a number of actions to protect her financial situation but she used Avoidance as a coping mechanism and the situation continues to escalate.  Because coping mechanisms are a subconscious reaction, Robyn may not have understood what was happening to her or why.     It is likely she would have become confused, and experienced feelings of shame and guilt.   It is also likely she did not know where to start in telling someone about her problem.

 

Subconscious Freedom Therapy is a gentle process that is highly effective in treating negative emotional problems.   Your subconscious mind is where your emotional history is stored, and it is a powerful resource for maintaining good health and well being.    Subconscious Freedom works on the belief that both the problem and the solution lie within our own subconscious mind.

 

For further information on Subconscious Freedom Therapy, visit our website http://subconsciousresearch.com.au

 

Email: centersr@hotmail.com

 

Or call Leigh Skewes on 0413347233

 

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